Choosing flowers as a gift seems simple, but in Asia, cultural meanings, superstitions, and practical considerations make the task more nuanced—especially when the recipient is elderly. A well-intentioned bouquet can easily convey the wrong message if you’re unaware of local sensitivities.
Here’s a florist guide to flowers to avoid, and why.
1. White Flowers
Examples: White chrysanthemums, white lilies, white carnations
In much of East Asia, white is associated with mourning and funerals. Sending an all-white arrangement can inadvertently signal sorrow or even death. While small white accents in a colorful bouquet may be acceptable, pure white flowers should generally be avoided.
2. Chrysanthemums
Examples: Yellow or white chrysanthemums
Chrysanthemums are traditional funeral flowers in countries like China, Japan, and Korea. Yellow chrysanthemums in particular are often linked to grief. Even though chrysanthemums are beautiful, sending them alone can be interpreted as a gesture of mourning rather than celebration.
3. Dark or Somber Colors
Examples: Deep red or brown flowers
Dark hues often carry connotations of misfortune or decay. For festive occasions, especially for elderly recipients, bright and cheerful colors are safer and more uplifting.
4. Dead or Drooping Flowers
Flowers that are past their prime, wilting, or otherwise unattractive can unintentionally symbolize aging, illness, or decline. Always ensure flowers are fresh, vibrant, and well-maintained.
5. Flowers with Negative Cultural Associations
Some flowers carry specific superstitions depending on the country.
| Flower | Region | Negative Connotation |
|---|---|---|
| White lilies | China | Mourning, funerals |
| Red orchids | China | Aggression or warning (rare) |
| Withered lotus | Across Asia | Misfortune or death |
Understanding local customs ensures your gift communicates respect rather than misunderstanding.
6. Strongly Scented or Exotic Flowers
Elderly recipients may have sensitive senses or allergies, so overpowering scents can be unpleasant. Flowers like gardenias or certain tropical blooms may overwhelm a space. Choose lightly scented or unscented varieties.
7. Large or High-Maintenance Arrangements
Oversized bouquets or complex floral arrangements can be difficult to handle and maintain. Elderly recipients may struggle with heavy or delicate flowers. Low-maintenance potted plants or modest bouquets are often the best choice.
Safe Alternatives
- Bright-colored roses (avoid dark red)
- Pink, peach, or red carnations (avoid white)
- Cheerful orchids (avoid pure white or red in China)
- Seasonal flowers with positive symbolism, such as peonies in China, which symbolize wealth and honor
Final Thoughts
When gifting flowers to elderly people in Asia, avoid white, yellow chrysanthemums, dark colors, and funeral-associated blooms. Opt for bright, cheerful colors, fresh flowers, and simple arrangements. Awareness of cultural symbolism ensures your gift conveys respect, care, and celebration rather than misunderstanding.